I really don’t have that many gay friends… but it does surprise me how often old friends turn out to be gay. It’s also funny to me how, when you find then on Facebook, Friendster, Myspace, or what have you, you find out who’s gay… sometimes through oblique comments, sometimes through over-the-top declarations of identity, and sometimes simply from a single line under their profile, marked “orientation: gay”.

You get this sense of reconnecting without actually reconnecting… in many cases, we are only sharing facts about ourselves. I am a married gay DJ-cartoonist-web designer. But does this collection of nouns and adjectives really tell you anything?